Part of why I created Your Own Life is that I know it is possible to create anything in life that you want. People call me a Super Manifester. I use the power of my thoughts to create the life I want, and I want to teach you to do the same. I recently visualized my next apartment. I visualized that it would be a place of light with a great view. That is exactly what I found.

I just moved in, and decided that I would wash the floor to ceiling windows to show appreciation for the light that was flowing in. I live in Mexico, and I have a house keeper that came with the apartment, and guess what she did yesterday without me even asking? She cleaned every single window in the apartment! I also thought I would find a hummingbird feeder as love hummingbirds. Well, yesterday, as I sat watching the tree in front of my apartment, a hummingbird started flying in between its branches! There are no flowers on this tree, and nothing that would attract a hummingbird, yet there was a hummingbird. I knew that hummingbird was sending me a message that she would come visit as soon as I get the feeder. So, how do I do it? How do I manifest so easily? Here is what works for me.

The Secret To Manifesting The Life You Want

1. Recognize Your Power

You can recognize your power by realizing that you are worthy and that you deserve everything in life that you want. Many of us are afraid to actually get what we want and that blocks the good things in life from coming to us. You deserve to live a life of happiness and joy. Speaking of living in happiness and joy, that brings me to the next secret.

2. Live In Happiness Each Moment

We have been programmed to think that we need certain things to be happy, but happiness comes from within. If you don’t feel a sense of joy and contentment from deep within your being, nothing in this temporary world will make you happy. When you make your happiness dependent on another person or thing, you are actually giving your power away and lowering your vibration. When happiness comes from within you, you raise your vibration, which makes it easier to create the things that you want. When you take a moment to feel how beautiful and magical life really is, you won’t be able to stop yourself from feeling an inner joy that will light up not just you but everything in its path.

3. Concentrate On The Feelings That You Want Not The Things

Life will surprise you and give you far more than you ever asked for if you concentrate on how the things that you want will make you feel rather than the actual physical thing you want to see happen. For instance, I decided I wanted clean windows because I wanted to show gratitude and honor the light flowing in my home. Because I concentrated on the feeling of joy that having clean windows would bring to me, I managed to get clean windows without even having to clean them myself.

If you are wanting to be with a certain person, or have a certain job, or you want a certain dream house, concentrate on how having that thing or person will make you feel. And start feeling that way without the person or thing you want. You are then aligning your vibration with what you want. Also, the Universe knows what is best for you, so if, for instance, you want to be in a relationship with a certain person, concentrate on why you want to be with that person. It’s easy to put our own projections on someone and think they hold certain characteristics that they don’t. If you concentrate instead on the feelings you would feel, the way that they make you feel more open, yet safe, the way they bring out your own love, you may attract someone who is even better for you and possesses more of the characteristics that you want.

4. EWOP (Everything Is Working Out Perfectly)

In Hawaii, the shamans practice Huna. The main teaching of Huna is that everything is working out perfectly. There is a great website, EWOP Vision which teaches more about EWOP, and they will even send you a free pair of EWOP Vision glasses to help shift your view when you forget to trust life. You see life really does know what is best for us, and uses every experience to teach us what we need to learn. If you don’t get the job you manifested, it just means there is a better one for you.

If, however, you are in a place where you seem to be destroying everything in your life (being sick all of the time, struggling with jobs, relationships and friendships), this could be a sign that you don’t really want life at all. There may be a hidden part of you that doesn’t really want to exist. So, life is trying to get your attention to come back to it. It is still using the circumstances that you created to show you there really is a better way. Even the hard times are bringing us lessons that we can use to embrace life instead of turning away from life.

5. Show Gratitude

Show gratitude for everything in your life, even the hard stuff. When you feel gratitude, this also helps you feel the inner happiness and peace that is inside you. It also shows life you are thankful for what you have. Don’t you like to be appreciated for the things you do? Well, life does too.

Show gratitude for the water that flows out of your sink each day, for being able to see the sunset, say a thank you to the flowers in your garden that bring beauty to your day. Show gratitude for the fact that you are alive and have a body to be able to express who you are. Thank yourself for creating the things you have created in your life. Thank everything! Show gratitude for the things you do have rather than obsessing on the things you don’t. You won’t be able to not feel joy when you do this. It’s impossible to feel negatively at the same time you are feeling gratitude. Showing gratitude for what you already have is the biggest secret to manifesting.  If you are still struggling with finding gratitude, I would like to end with one of my favorite poems by Rob Brezsny.

I also want to offer a free 15-minute Skype session (1 per person) to anyone who wants help with manifesting the life they want. Email me at [email protected] for your free session today.

Glory in the Highest

excerpted from PRONOIA Is the Antidote for Paranoia

Thousands of things go right for you every day, beginning the moment you wake up. Through some magic you don’t fully understand, you’re still breathing and your heart is beating, even though you’ve been unconscious for many hours. The air is a mix of gases that’s just right for your body’s needs, as it was before you fell asleep.

You can see! Light of many colors floods into your eyes, registered by nerves that took God or evolution or some process millions of years to perfect. The interesting gift of these vivid hues comes to you courtesy of an unimaginably immense globe of fire, the sun, which continually detonates nuclear reactions in order to convert its body into light and heat and energy for your personal use.

Did you know that the sun is located at the precise distance from you to be of perfect service? If it were any closer, you’d fry, and if it were any further away, you’d freeze. Here’s another one of the sun’s benedictions: It appears to rise over the eastern horizon right on schedule every day, as it has since long before you were born.

Do you remember when you were born, by the way? It was a difficult miracle that involved many people who worked hard on your behalf. No less miraculous is the fact that you have continued to grow since then, with millions of new cells being born inside you to replace the old ones that die. All of this happens whether or not you ever think about it.

On this day, like almost every other, you have awoken inside a temperature-controlled shelter. You have a home! Your bed and pillow are soft and you’re covered by comfortable blankets. The electricity is turned on, as usual. Somehow, in ways you’re barely aware of, a massive power plant at an unknown distance from your home is transforming fuel into currents of electricity that reach you through mostly hidden conduits in the exact amounts you need, and all you have to do to control the flow is flick small switches with your fingers.

You can walk! Your legs work wonderfully well. Your heart circulates your blood all the way down to replenish the energy of the muscles in your feet and calves and thighs, and when the blood is depleted it finds its way back to your heart to be refreshed. This blessing recurs over and over again without stopping every hour of your life.

Your home is perhaps not a million-dollar palace, but it’s sturdy and gigantic compared to the typical domicile in every culture that has preceded you. The floors aren’t crumbling, and the walls and ceilings are holding up well, too. Doors open and close without trouble, and so do the windows. What skillful geniuses built this sanctuary for you? How and where did they learn their craft?

In your bathroom, the toilet is functioning perfectly, as are several other convenient devices. You have at your disposal soaps, creams, razors, clippers, tooth-cleaning accessories: a host of products that enhance your hygiene and appearance. You trust that unidentified scientists somewhere tested them to be sure they’re safe for you to use.

Amazingly, the water you need so much of comes out of your faucets in an even flow, with the volume you want, and either cold or hot as you desire. It’s pure and clean; you’re confident no parasites are lurking in it. There is someone somewhere making sure these boons will continue to arrive for you without interruption for as long as you require them.

Look at your hands. They’re astounding creations that allow you to carry out hundreds of tasks with great force and intricate grace. They relish the pleasure and privilege of touching thousands of different textures, and they’re beautiful.

In your closet are many clothes you like to wear. Who gathered the materials to make the fabrics they’re made of? Who imbued them with colors, and how did they do it? Who sewed them for you?

In your kitchen, appetizing food in secure packaging is waiting for you. Many people you’ve never met worked hard to grow it, process it, and get it to the store where you bought it. The bounty of tasty nourishment you get to choose from is unprecedented in the history of the world.

Your many appliances are working flawlessly. Despite the fact that they feed on electricity, which could kill you instantly if you touched it directly, you feel no fear that you’re in danger. Why? Your faith in the people who invented, designed, and produced these machines is impressive.

It’s as if there’s a benevolent conspiracy of unknown people that is tirelessly creating hundreds of useful things you like and need.

There’s more. Gravity is working exactly the way it always has, neither pulling on you with too much or too little force. How did that marvel ever come to be? By some prodigious, long-running accident? It doesn’t really matter, since it will continue to function with astounding efficiency whether or not you understand it.

Meanwhile, a trillion other elements of nature’s miraculous design are expressing themselves perfectly. Plants are growing, rivers are flowing, clouds are drifting, winds are blowing, animals are reproducing. The weather is an interesting blend of elements you’ve never before experienced in quite this combination. Though you may take it for granted, you relish the ever-shifting sensations of light and temperature as they interact with your body.

There’s more. You can smell odors and hear sounds and taste tastes, many of which are quite pleasing. You can think! You’re in possession of the extraordinary gift of self-awareness. You can feel feelings! Do you realize how improbably stupendous it is for you to have been blessed with that mysterious capacity? And get this: You can visualize an inexhaustible array of images, some of which represent things that don’t actually exist. How did you acquire this magical talent?

By some improbable series of coincidences or long-term divine plan, language has come into existence. Millions of people have collaborated for many centuries to cultivate a system for communication that you understand well. Speaking and reading give you great pleasure and a tremendous sense of power.

Do you want to go someplace that’s at a distance? You have a number of choices about what machines to use in order to get there. Whatever you decide—car, plane, bus, train, subway, ship, helicopter, or bike—you have confidence that it will work efficiently. Multitudes of people who are now dead devoted themselves to perfecting these modes of travel. Multitudes who are still alive devote themselves to ensuring that these benefits keep serving you.

Maybe you’re one of the hundreds of millions of people in the world who has the extraordinary privilege of owning a car. It’s a brilliant invention made by highly competent workers. Other skilled laborers put in long hours to extract oil from the ground or sea and turn it into fuel so you can use your car conveniently. The roads are drivable. Who paved them for you? The bridges you cross are potent feats of engineering. Do you realize how hard it was to fabricate them from scratch?

You’re aware that in the future shrinking oil reserves and global warming may impose limitations on your ability to use cars and planes and other machines to travel. But you also know that many smart and idealistic people are diligently striving to develop alternative fuels and protect the environment. And compared to how slow societies have been to understand their macrocosmic problems in the past, your culture is moving with unprecedented speed to recognize and respond to the crises spawned by its technologies.

As you travel, you might listen to music. Maybe you’ve got an MP3 player, a fantastic invention that has dramatically enhanced your ability to hear a stunning variety of engaging sounds at a low cost. Or maybe you have a radio. Through a process you can’t fathom, music and voices that originate at a distance from you have been converted into invisible waves that bounce off the ionosphere and down into your little machine, where they are transformed back into music and voices for you to enjoy.

Let’s say it’s 9:30 a.m. You’ve been awake for two hours, and a hundred things have already gone right for you. If three of those hundred things had not gone right—your toaster was broken, the hot water wasn’t hot enough, there was a stain on the pants you wanted to wear—you might feel that today the universe is against you, that your luck is bad, that nothing’s going right. And yet the fact is that the vast majority of everything is working with breathtaking efficiency and consistency. You would clearly be deluded to imagine that life is primarily an ordeal.

The view from my new apartment (I manifested this!)

Free your mind and your ass will follow.-George Clinton

George Clinton got it right. Once you free your mind, those parts of you that feel like an ass, that feel not worthy, that feel not good enough, all of those parts will be free, too. Here’s why.

Most of us live with part of our minds trapped within a cage. This is the part of ourselves that we reject. We have thoughts that go through our minds that we label as bad. We judge someone or feel angry or ungrateful, and we feel ashamed about it. We then reject that part of ourselves because that isn’t who we want to be.

When we reject these thoughts, we move them to a place that we can’t access. We put bars around them, label them as “bad”, and throw away the key. Yet, because we have locked these thoughts away, and haven’t let them flow through us,  they are still a part of us. So, they have more power than ever!

When our mind has become a storehouse of those negative thoughts (of which we are unaware of because we have suppressed them), we will attract negative experiences to mirror those negative thoughts that we don’t realize are locked away.

So, if you have had the thought that you are not worthy but have hidden that thought within you, you will continue to attract people and situations in your life that make you feel like you are not worthy. You will blame the other people for how they have made you feel, but, actually, they are a gift. They are only reflecting the idea that you have rejected and have buried in your mind.

If you want to free your mind, you have to let those thoughts surface. When they surface, you will realize you are not those thoughts. We often have to see what we are not before we can see what we are.

You can do this by becoming mindful of your thoughts when they arise. Sit with these thoughts you have about yourself. And instead of judging them as bad, try loving yourself in spite of what you are thinking. It is the feeling of completeness that your mind is actually searching for. That is what it needs to be free. But, it can’t be free if you are keeping parts of yourself hidden.

The secret to freeing your mind is to love yourself no matter what arises. Your heart is the only thing that has the ability to free your mind. Ask yourself why the negative thoughts or emotions you are having are arising. To give you an example, I recently got really angry with someone. This person judged my anger, and the old me would have done the same. But, instead, I went deeper. I asked myself, “Why did I get so angry?” The thing that triggered my anger was this person had criticized me for something nice I had done for them, but they criticized me because, in their eyes, I hadn’t done it “right.”

When I sat with my anger, I went deeper, and realized that I had unhealed pain in my heart. I grew up in a family where I was often criticized. I had many gifts to give as a person, but according to them, there was always a way I could do things better. I realized that this place inside of me was not fully healed. I grieved and let the tears flow as I realized this and gave compassion and love to this place inside of me that felt unloved and “not enough”. In this way, I had made never being “enough” part of my truth. And, I was continuing to attract people and situations that made me feel this way.

Once I saw this, I was able to let this belief go. I knew this wasn’t really true. I began to see all the wonderful gifts I have to give to this world. I began to see my true being. I saw that I was enough and that no one else had the ability to take that away from me. I saw that my anger was a gift for revealing these truths to me. But, if I had judged and avoided the anger, I would have never seen the true cause of the anger and that part of me would have been left unhealed. Instead, I let the love in my heart unlock the bars of my mind.

I encourage you to go deeper when you experience thoughts or emotions you want to avoid. If you are experiencing fear or guilt or anxiety, sit with it. Don’t judge it. Allow it, and you will start to see what is triggering these emotions. The same is true with sadness, worry, or any other thought or emotion that you are used to judging as negative. The truth really will set you free. Let everything else that’s not truth go. Let it out. Unleash it. The kingdom of heaven really is within. We just need to use our hearts to set it free.

It’s easy to let stress, our emotions, and anxiety affect our sense of calm, especially during the hectic holiday season. But when we let ourselves get carried away, we don’t just affect our mind. This stress takes a toll on our body and causes a sense of imbalance in our lives. We then become unable to cope with situations that we normally would have the ability to handle.

The first thing to do is to start checking in with your body throughout the day. Notice how you are feeling. Many times our sense of calm can be upset without us even realizing it. The time to start with these practices is when you first notice that you aren’t feeling calm. Once you notice this, here are my suggestions on how to calm down.

1. Breathe

While meditating has tremendous benefits in helping to bring a sense of calm to one’s life, you don’t have to do a full mediation session to bring a sense of peace to each moment. Try to set time for regular breathing sessions during the day. Instead of mindlessly scrolling through the Facebook feed next time you have a few minutes of free time, take a few deep breaths. Just for a minute, keep your mind on your breath. You will find that you return to the moment much more relaxed and centered.

2. Spend Time In Solitude

Even extroverts need time alone. When we are around people, our energy is affected, and if we don’t take time alone to recharge our batteries, we can find ourselves stressed without knowing why. If you don’t live alone, go out in nature and spend time with yourself. When you spend time alone, especially in silence, you will find that you can hear yourself and access your intuition better as well.

3. Listen To Binaural Beats To Calm Down

Binaural Beats cause a hypnotic response in the brain and can do wonders to calm you down instantly. They work best when listened to with headphones, and there are many free ones for a variety of symptoms available on YouTube. I listen to them daily when I am working on my computer. They are also great to listen to as you drift off to sleep at night.

4. Dance

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The majority of us live only in our heads. We have an entire body, but we spend most of our time in our minds. When we move our bodies, we lose some of our obsession with being in our minds, and we will notice an immediate sense of calm. You can get this effect with any activity or exercise which forces you to be in your body, but my favorite activity is dancing. You don’t need to go out to dance. You can have a dance party in your own living room. Freely express yourself and let yourself go.

5. Use Essential Oils To Help You Relax

Most of us know the soothing effects that lavender can have on the body, but there are many other scents that can help with different types of anxiety. Frankincense is my favorite for calming a busy mind, while jasmine is great for anxiety. Vetiver is great for sleeping and for relieving jet lag. I prefer to get the benefits of essential oils by using a diffuser, but you can also get their benefits by putting them in a foot bath or mixing them with a carrier oil and wearing them as perfume. One of the most relaxing things to do is to put them in your bath water.

What ways do you use to calm down? Let me know in the comments below!

I also want to offer a free 15-minute Skype session (1 per person) to anyone who feels like they have issues in their life that they want help with. I can give advice and help you move through your life and its challenges with a sense of calm and well being and less anxiety. Email me at [email protected] for your free session today. 

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